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Individual Therapy

I work with individuals ages 18 and up. My approach to therapy is humanistic in nature and highly based on attachment theory. I incorporate cognitive behavioral, trauma-focused, neurologically based, emotionally focused, family systems, and mindfulness-based approaches to treatment. I also may utilize meditation and visualization exercises, as well as sand tray therapy for my work with adults. Ultimately, I customize the therapy to what works for the person or persons sitting in front of me and want my clients to know that we are partners in this healing process. My specialty is EMDR therapy. Please find this video on EMDR AND PTSD.

Issues I work with:

Codependency and “Love Addiction”
Low self-esteem
Anxiety, Depression, and PTSD
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents
Relationship Issues

I Specialize In:

Assertiveness training
Spiritual Issues-Christian
Chronic Pain

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Please click the link EMDR Therapy to hear more about it and how it can help you.

Couples Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy – Couples

When it comes to couples therapy, not all approaches are created equal. I follow the research, which shows that Emotionally Focused Therapy is one of the most effective approaches to couples therapy.

Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT is an attachment-oriented approach to therapy that assumes we all have very deep needs for safe emotional connection and contact. When those needs are not met in a relationship, we can develop very negative patterns of interaction that further damage the relationship. EFT helps to create more emotional safety and deeper intimacy within the relationship.

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To read more about Emotionally Focused Therapy, click here.

Christian Therapy

I believe it is important to incorporate my clients’ spiritual beliefs in the therapy if they wish to do so. This can include anything from resolution of spiritual trauma to providing additional spiritual resources to help clients to heal. Although my specialty is Christian therapy, I have worked successfully with people of many different faith traditions and with those who do not claim any particular religious or spiritual beliefs.

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EMDR

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy

I regularly use EMDR therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy). EMDR is an integrative physiological psychotherapy approach that has been found to be effective for treating many different issues, including anxiety and panic attacks, complicated grief, depression, addictions, eating disorders, self-esteem, trauma and PTSD, stress, fear, and relationship issues.

EMDR therapists utilize a unique standardized set of procedures and protocols to activate components of memories of disturbing life events and facilitate reprocessing of these previous distressing memories and/or events, so that they are better integrated. This integration allows the mind, spirit, and body to let go of problematic feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, so that that the person can fully heal. EMDR has been found to be one of the most effective methods to address trauma and adverse life experiences.

Although EMDR is newer than some other therapies, and subsequently not as heavily researched, the research that has been done has supported its effectiveness over standard talk therapy. One study found that 84-90% had relief of their emotional distress after only three EMDR sessions. Another study showed that EMDR was twice as effective in half the amount of time as standard traditional therapy. The research has also shown EMDR therapy results to last over time. And the best part? No homework! Everything is done in session.

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Please click the link EMDR Therapy to hear more about it and how it can help you.

Emotionally Focused Therapy

EFT

EFT is one of the most evidence-backed forms of couples therapy. Research findings indicate that 70-75% of couples move from significant distress to recovery with EFT and approximately 90% show significant improvement after completing couples therapy using EFT. EFT emphasizes the interaction between partners and helps each person to greater understand and communicate their feelings in a way that is more apt to meet their needs and achieve greater connection with their partner. The enhanced connection between partners enables the couple to better solve conflicts.

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PTSD Trauma Therapy

PTSD Trauma Therapy

When we think of “trauma”, this often calls to mind very drastic or life-threatening experiences, such as being robbed at gunpoint or serving in combat; however, research shows that less extreme situations can also be traumatizing. Although, I have worked with many clients who have experienced severe events like the above, it is more common for me to work with clients who been negatively affected by previous childhood situations, such as having a critical parent, being bullied by peers, or losing a loved one. Childhood emotional, physical, sexual abuse and/or neglect are also often common experiences my clients have had. I also work with Veterans with PTSD.

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Codependency

Codependency

Are you in a relationship with someone (significant other, friend, or family member) who has a serious mental health issue, addiction, or is abusive to you in some way? The relationship doesn’t quite make you feel right: you feel controlled by this person, guilty when you refuse requests, and find it hard to express your own feelings and desires, especially when they differ from those of this person. Although you sometimes think of ending the relationship, you are scared to be alone.
If this sounds like you, chances are you are in a codependent relationship. Traits of codependency can be feeling inadequate or overly concerned with that others’ think about you, perfectionism, people pleasing, poor boundaries, high reactivity to others, lack of assertiveness or abusive language, losing yourself in another person or avoiding closeness, trying to control others, and denying how painful a relationship really is.

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Love Addiction

Love Addiction

If you are a love addict, you are in love with being in love. You become addicted to the “rush”- the intensity that occurs in the beginning stages of a romantic relationship-and will pursue this “high” in various ways, often to your detriment: jumping from relationship to relationship, staying in dissatisfying relationships while engaging in cheating or emotional affairs, spending excessive amounts of time fantasizing about the perfect partner, and frequently creating drama with your significant other when the relationship is “stable”. The high produced by the intensity of the relationship offers you comfort, soothing and/or arousal, which medicates your underlying distressing feelings. When you are addicted to love, the addiction can be very destructive-you may leave a healthy relationship when the intensity fades and “boredom” sets in, or unconsciously select “unavailable” partners.

Some symptoms of love addiction are:

Confusing sexual or romantic intensity for love and genuine intimacy
Feeling alone and desperate when not in a relationship
Seeking a new relationship while still in a relationship with someone
Continually struggling to maintain the sexual or romantic intensity of an existing relationship
Using romance to escape from painful or unpleasant emotions

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Adult Children of Alcoholics

Adult Children of Alcoholics

No matter how good you believe your childhood was, if one or both of your parents was an alcoholic or heavy drinker, you grew up with trauma. There may have been abuse-emotional or physical, or just chaos and unpredictability. You may have been embarrassed by your parent’s behavior when drunk and not been able to have your friends come over or been confused and frightened by the change in personality in your parent for what you believed to be no reason. You may have even questioned your sanity if you spoke about your concerns with other members of your family and were told that you were just overreacting, and nothing was wrong. If one of your parents was not an alcoholic, chances are he or she was consumed by your alcoholic parent and you didn’t get everything you needed from that parent either.

Adult children of alcoholics often taken themselves very seriously and have difficulty letting down their guards to have fun and be silly. They may fear criticism, authority, and angry people. They tend to be hard on themselves and overly responsible and sometimes develop their own addictions or partner with someone who is an addict or alcoholic. They frequently minimize the trauma that they experienced.

Adult Children of Narcissistic or Controlling Parents

In addition to, or instead of an alcoholic parent, you may have grown up with a narcissistic and/or controlling parent. Did you grow up feeling like you were letting at least one of your parents down on a regular basis? Maybe mom was endlessly pushing you to do one thing or another, even if it was something you weren’t particularly interested in. Then she took some, or all, of the credit when you did it well and criticized or gave you the silent treatment when you didn’t. Maybe dad made you feel guilty for not giving him enough love or attention or raged when other family members did not agree with his views or do what he asked, when he asked it. You may have been constantly compared to a sibling and your parent may have alternated love and favor between the two of you, usually based upon whoever was being more “compliant” at the time.

Maybe it didn’t stop once you became an adult. Your parent made it clear he or she did not like your choice of partner, protested when you wanted to move out, became critical that you didn’t call or visit more enough, or put down your line of work. Or you may still be trying desperately to live up to this parent’s expectation of you and gain their love and respect, maybe even following in your parent’s footsteps in terms of career choice or lifestyle.

If this is starting to sound familiar, it is likely that you grew up with at least one parent who was narcissistic, controlling, or both.

It may have been hard for other people to understand. Many parents like this put on a great show in public. Your parent may have been highly successful at work, had tons of friends, and been attractive and charming. But behind closed doors, hidden from view, these parents are frequently needy and demanding, critical and/or abusive, or inconsistent-alternately loving their children and hating them. Some even ignore their children much of the time and choose to focus on their own needs or interests.

Growing up in families like this affects a child’s self-worth and sense of self and can create difficulties in adulthood.

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